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Get to Know Sam (they/she)

Sam is a Sexologist & Specialist Social Worker who provides radically-inclusive therapy to empower queer and fat folks to thrive. With a passion for supporting individuals in navigating sexual wellness, body image, queer identity, and general wellbeing, Sam is a pleasure and connection specialist dedicated to helping people live their fullest, most authentic lives.

ABOUT

01.

Queer

Friendly

02.

All Bodies

Welcome

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Neurodivergent

Affirming

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Trauma-

Informed

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Prioritising

Pleasure

Individual Sexology Sessions

Tailored one-on-one sessions designed to explore and support your unique needs around sexual wellness, body image, intimacy, and relationships. These sessions provide a safe and affirming space to navigate challenges, embrace pleasure, and build a deeper connection with yourself and others. Book online here.

Workshops & Courses

For individuals and groups, workshops explore topics like sexual wellness, body neutrality, and queer identity, empowering participants to embrace pleasure and connection. For health professionals, courses focus on building skills in inclusive, affirming, and culturally-responsive practices to better serve diverse communities.

Soft Body Club

A welcoming community space for fat and plus-size folks to celebrate their bodies, cultivate self-compassion, and connect with others. Through group discussions, activities, events, and resources, Soft Body Club nurtures body neutrality, pleasure, and radical self-acceptance. Launching soon!

Join The Community

Stay in the loop with monthly(ish) updates about appointment availability, upcoming workshops & courses, and resources I’m loving. No spam, just the good stuff to keep you informed and connected!

and that’s on thattttt

[Image description: The words “a person’s dating history does not reflect their sexuality” in orange font on a pale blue background.]

The internet just loves to remind us of capitalist and colonial beauty standards, huh? 🙄

[Video description: Sam is wearing a black t-shirt, brown pants, and have their dark hair pulled back. They walk into frame and sit down on the couch, and then look at the camera and put both their thumbs up. The words “You’re so quiet.” and “Yeah… the internet is starting to feel a whole lot like ‘nothing tastes as good as skinny feels’ again, and I’m just over here making sure other ✨fat baddies✨ know they’re safe, welcome, and valid.” are on the screen in black/white font.]

Honestly, the world could really do with more buying flowers for and kissing friends rn.

[Image description: The words “normalise. platonic. intimacy.” in beige font on an olive green background.]

🫶🏻

[Video description: A collection of eight videos, some of Sam, some of Ziggy, and some of nature/the garden. There are words on the screen in black/white font which list the following:
This and LGBTQIA+ rights
This and the eradication of fatphobia
This and period/pelvic pain being taken seriously the first time
This and everyone having access to reproductive healthcare
This and accessibility being the norm
This and not having to ask for affirmative consent
This and trans rights as human rights
This and wondering why all of this isn’t just common sense?]

and that’s the tea ☕

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… and proud 🥹

Just waiting for all the queer and plus-size baddies to come join me ❤️‍🔥

[Video description: Sam is wearing a black t-shirt, brown pants, and have their dark hair pulled back. The first shot is a close up of their face whilst they set up the camera, and the second is of them standing up and looking at the camera. The words “Allow me to re-introduce myself:” are on the screen in black/white font, followed by the following list of values:
Queer 🌈
Fat 🧸
Anti-diet 🚫🍽️
Pro-choice ✊🏻
Body neutral ⚖️
S*x-positive 💋
Gender expansive 🏳️‍⚧️
Community builder 🧑🏻‍🤝‍🧑🏽
Living with chronic illness 💊
Proud cat parent 😻
Nature lover 🌿
Artist 🎨
Eternal student 🤓]

Queer as in trans lives are sacred. Queer as in fighting for a world where every gender is celebrated. Queer as in love, liberation, and unapologetic existence.

[Image description: The words “queer as in trans lives are sacred” in beige font on an orange background.]

About a year ago, I took a leap and had a branding photoshoot… something I’d put off for years!

As a fat person, stepping in front of the camera felt both terrifying and empowering. It wasn’t just about capturing the business, it was about showing up fully as myself, unapologetically, and embracing my body and all that it represents 💫

Looking back, it was a defining moment in my business journey. It wasn’t just about the photos; it was about affirming my worth, my business, and the community I aim to serve.

Here’s to more moments of growth, more leaps of faith, and always taking up space ❤️‍🔥

📸 = @alannapennaphotography

[Video description: A video of Sam holding a blue ceramic mug whilst looking at the camera, followed by several still images from a branding photoshoot. Sam is a fat person, wearing a variety of outfits, with dark brown hair and glasses. The words “Almost one year ago I did a branding photoshoot to kick off this incredible journey of starting my small business…” and “Here’s some of my favourite photos in one place, because I don’t think I’ve shared them all yet:” are on the screen in black/white font.]

🤷🏻

[Image description: The words “picking out clothes like: ‘how gay am I gonna be today?’” in orange font on a pale blue background.]

“some flavour of not-cishet” is my new favourite identifier 💅🏼

[Video description: A POV shot of Sam’s legs whilst walking down the street. They are wearing black/white gingham pants and beige birkenstock clogs. The words “I truly love how queer can mean “I’m some flavour of not-cishet but I don’t care to know the specifics beyond that” and also “I absolutely do know the specifics but we will be here all damn day if we get into it”.” are on the screen in black/white font.]

SAY IT WITH ME!!!

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We’ve been having a little extra fun in my stories this year, and I thought it was about time we shared the love on the grid too! [the last one is my personal fav 😏]

✨ FEEL GOOD FRIDAY ✨

Here’s some of my favourite submissions from your wins (big or small) so far in 2025. In return, each week I share some of my favourite content with you in my stories (from silly goose wholesome to straight up horny) ❤️‍🔥

Why not join us next time?

Like, it’s not that hard 💁🏻

Btw biiiiiiig middle finger to Google (and every other fascist big corp/media company).

[Image description: Slide 1 - The words “I love respecting people’s names and pronouns. It’s fun, easy, and totally free.” in orange font on a pale blue background. Slides 2-4 - A screenshot of a Threads post on a pale blue background.]

OR

…I’m literally just challenging harmful biases and doing what every therapist should be doing.

OR

…I’m literally just providing the compassionate, non-judgemental care that everyone deserves.

OR

…I’m literally just challenging weight stigma and rejecting fatphobic narratives that shouldn’t exist in therapy to begin with.

[Video description: Several videos of Sam setting up their camera, ready to show their outfit. The words “When people say I’m so brave for being a fat-inclusive therapist, but I’m literally just refusing to uphold a system that devalues people based on their body size.” are on the screen in black/white font.]

a little shareable tile, since apparently some people need the history lesson 🙄

[Image description: There are four slides, each describing a different group of people “queer/trans/non-binary/gender expansive” followed by “have always been here” in beige font on an orange background.]

Did you know trauma doesn’t just live in your memories and mind? It can also show up in your body too—especially during intimacy.

If you’ve ever felt:
—disconnected
—self-conscious
—or overwhelmed
during intimate moments, this is not your fault.

Trauma has a way of interfering with pleasure, and it’s something many folks, especially those navigating fatphobia or queerphobia, experience.

Here’s the thing: trauma doesn’t mean you’re broken. Feelings of hypervigilance or emotional disconnection? This is often a result of your body trying to protect you. It’s a survival response, not a failure.

The good news is, healing is possible. You deserve intimacy that feels safe, connected, and pleasurable. If this resonates with you, it might be time to book in for your first appointment with a s-xologist. Reach out today and we can start your journey together.

[Video description: Sam is sitting down with their computer on their laptop, talking to the screen. Sam is wearing a black t-shirt, brown pants, and has their hair tied back. There are plants in the background.]

just me? 😛

[Image description: The words “who else is a TMI enthusiast? nothing is too much information. I want every detail. I love knowing things.” in an orange font on a beige background.]

A little MUST HAVE guide for anyone navigating dating in a plus-size body (or wanting to date someone plus-size 👀)

TLDR; love yourself, date yourself, and never settle for less than you deserve. Fat bodies are worthy of desire, pleasure, and all the good things in between 💖

A little reminder 💭

As a Sexologist, I often emphasise how deeply our connection with ourselves influences every aspect of our s-xual lives.

Developing a healthy, curious, and affirming relationship with your own s-xuality is foundational—it’s where empowerment begins!

Understanding your body, desires, and boundaries is not just about personal satisfaction; it’s about self-awareness. When you take the time to explore what pleasure looks and feels like for you, you can cultivate a sense of agency over your s-xuality. This isn’t just about touch, it’s about listening to your body, honouring your needs, and rejecting societal shame around self-pleasure or s-xual expression.

Creating this relationship also means learning to communicate with yourself.

Ask:
🗣️ What brings me joy?
🗣️ What sensations feel good?
🗣️ What makes me feel safe and desired?

So, let me remind you: explore yourself, be curious, and treat your s-xuality with care and compassion 🫶🏻

[Image description: The words “don’t know who needs to hear this but the most important s-xual relationship you will ever have is the one you create with yourself” in beige font on an olive green background.]

This one goes out to my fat babes needing a little extra reassurance 🥵🥵

[Video description: A selfie video where the top of Sam’s head is visible at the bottom of the screen, and the rest of the shot is the interior of their car. There is text on the screen in black/white font.]

Let me be clear: your body, exactly as it is right now, is worthy of pleasure.

🫳🏻
🎤

Yet, in a world that constantly tells us our bodies need to look, act, or exist in a certain way to be ‘deserving’, the idea of embracing pleasure can feel radical—even rebellious.

Pleasure can take countless forms: the warmth of sunlight on your skin, the joy of movement, the taste of your favourite meal, the release of a belly laugh, or the intimacy of touch. It’s about connection; connecting with yourself, your desires, and sometimes, the world around you.

Society often weaponizes shame to convince us that pleasure is something for ‘other’ bodies... straight-sized, younger, or simply ones deemed more ‘acceptable’. But that’s a lie designed to disconnect you from your own power. By reclaiming pleasure, you’re not just rejecting these harmful messages; you’re embracing your inherent worth.

[Image description: The words “your body is worthy of pleasure” in orange font on a pale blue background.]

Mentally unlearning compulsory heterosexuality so I could finally experience queer joy and acceptance = priceless 🤑

[Video description: Sam is standing up, wearing a white t-shirt, brown pants, and their curly hair pulled back in a clip. The words on the screen read: “You’re so funny. Thanks! It took me years of mental gymnastics to realise my queer identity was an okay part of me, not the ‘sin’ religion taught me it was. Turns out it had everything to do with internalised homophobia and compulsory heterosexuality, not that there was something fundamentally wrong with me!”]

BIG fan of ‘lover’ around here ❤️‍🔥

What do you like to call your babe when talking about them to others?

[Image description: The words “people need to just let ‘lover’ be the s-xy androgynous term that it is” in beige font on an orange background.]

How YOU can be a loyal ally to the trans & queer community right now ✊🏼🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

[Video description: Sam is sitting down and talking to the camera. They are wearing a brown vintage tee and black pants, have their dark hair pulled back and are wearing clear glasses. The is a bed and a plant in the background. There are captions on the screen.]

🫶🏻 @evyan.whitney

[Image description: The words “my queerness is entwined with pleasure because being true to myself, to the wants of my body, feels good, and when I feel good, I feel free” in an orange font on a beige background.]

Queerness is freedom—for you and for others.

[Video description: The words “The gift of being queer isn’t merely realising your love can exist outside of gender and s-x, but that your life can exist outside the artificial norms society forces on everyone. Your queerness is as much a freedom to you, as it is a beacon for others to live freely too.” are on the screen in black/white font. Sam is filming a video on their phone whilst looking in the mirror, wearing a white button-up, black/white gingham pants, and a black belt with a gold buckle.]

& every part of you for that matter 👅

[Image description: The words “hot take: your fat rolls are perfect” in beige font on an olive green background.]

truly obsessed with my @jemimalongworth x @aplusmarket calendar. here’s to more delicious fat liberation in 2025 🌸

[Video description: The words “open & hang up my 2025 calendar with me! (sound on for ASMR and ziggy meows ” are on the screen in black/white font. The video is of a person opening a white envelope to reveal a new calendar and then flipping through it. The person then hangs it up on their fridge.]

for all my queer babes feeling it rn, there is no rush, okay? 😙

[Image description: The words “actually, there is no rush. and I have so much time to figure everything out.” in orange font on a pale blue background.]

communication + consent + enthusiasm = 🤤

[Video description: The words “quick psa: being “good in bed” isn’t about putting on some perfect performance, it’s about communication, ongoing consent, enthusiasm & believing that everyone’s pleasure is equally important” are on the screen in black/white font. Sam walks into frame wearing a white t-shirt and their brown hair pulled back, there are plants on the tiled wall in the background.]

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Get to Know Sam (they/she)

Individual Sexology Sessions

Workshops & Courses

Soft Body Club

Join The Community

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